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Take the situation seriously
If you think someone is stalking or harassing you, do not wait for it to get worse. Keep a record of what is happening and trust your instincts if something feels wrong.
Stalking and harassment can include repeated messages, unwanted visits, threats, following you, or contacting people around you. Even if the behaviour seems “minor” at first, patterns matter.
Put your safety first
If you are in immediate danger, call 999 straight away. If you cannot speak safely, use the silent 55 emergency option when prompted.
Try to go to a safe place if you can, such as a neighbour, shop, police station, or another public location. If you are worried the person may come to your home, work, or school, tell someone there so they can help keep you safe.
Record everything
Start a log of dates, times, places, and what happened. Include texts, emails, voicemails, social media messages, screenshots, photos, CCTV, and witness details if you have them.
Do not delete messages, even if they are upsetting. Save everything in more than one place, and consider backing it up to secure cloud storage or emailing copies to yourself.
Reduce their access to you
Block them on your phone and social media, but keep copies of the abuse first. Review your privacy settings and make your accounts private where possible.
Tell trusted friends, family, neighbours, colleagues, or your child’s school if relevant. Ask them not to share your location, routines, or contact details with anyone else.
Report it
You can report stalking or harassment to the police, especially if there are threats, repeated contact, or a pattern of behaviour. In the UK, harassment can be a criminal offence, and stalking is taken seriously under the law.
If you do not feel the police are responding appropriately, keep escalating with your evidence. You can also contact specialist organisations for advice and support, including the National Stalking Helpline.
Get legal and practical help
Depending on your situation, you may be able to seek a restraining order or other protective action. A solicitor, support service, or the police can explain what options may apply to you.
If the harassment is happening at work, tell your manager, HR team, or security staff. If it is linked to a neighbour, landlord, or local dispute, keep your housing provider informed and save all written complaints.
Look after your wellbeing
Being stalked or harassed can be exhausting and frightening. Try not to go through it alone, and speak to someone you trust or a support service as soon as you can.
Eat, rest, and keep to safe routines where possible, but avoid predictable patterns if you think they may be being watched. Support is available, and you deserve help as well as protection.
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If you feel in immediate danger, call emergency services right away. Move to a safer location, contact someone you trust, and avoid engaging with the person if possible. Start documenting every incident as soon as you can.
Save texts, emails, voicemails, screenshots, photos, and call logs. Write down dates, times, locations, what happened, and any witnesses. Keep copies in more than one safe place so the evidence is not lost.
Report it as soon as you believe there is a pattern of unwanted following, monitoring, threats, or repeated contact. If there are threats, trespassing, assaults, or violations of protective orders, contact police immediately.
Plan safe routes, vary routines, tell trusted people, and identify places you can go quickly if needed. Share a code word with friends or family, and keep important items ready in case you need to leave fast.
Change passwords, enable two-factor authentication, review privacy settings, and check devices for location sharing or spyware. Block the person where possible, but save evidence before blocking if safe to do so.
Contact a local court, victim services office, or family law attorney to ask about restraining or protective orders. Bring your evidence, incident log, and any police reports when applying. Rules vary by location, so get local guidance.
Tell a manager, HR, or security team what is happening and provide only the details needed for safety. Ask about screening calls, escorting you to your car, adjusting schedules, and limiting public information about you.
Be direct and specific about what you need, such as not sharing your location, not posting photos publicly, and not giving out your address or schedule. Ask them to save messages and report any contact from the stalker.
Treat threats seriously and contact law enforcement immediately. Save the exact wording of the threats, preserve recordings if legal, and do not meet the person alone. Seek immediate support from a crisis or domestic violence service if available.
Improve lighting, lock doors and windows, use cameras or peepholes, and let neighbors know what is happening if appropriate. Consider changing routines, not opening the door, and calling police if the person appears at your home.
Report fake profiles to the platform, save screenshots, and document links and usernames. Warn contacts not to respond to messages that claim to be from you or that ask for personal information.
Use a dedicated log with each incident’s date, time, place, what was said or done, and who saw it. Add photos, screenshots, and police report numbers so the pattern is easy to show later.
Check phones, cars, bags, and accounts for shared locations, unknown apps, or devices such as AirTags or similar trackers. If you find a tracker, follow local safety advice and consider contacting police before removing it.
Make accounts private, remove location tags, limit who can see posts, and stop sharing live travel details. Review followers and friends, disable check-ins, and ask others not to tag or mention you publicly.
Victim advocacy groups, domestic violence shelters, legal aid services, mental health counselors, and crisis hotlines can help. A trusted advocate can help you plan next steps, document incidents, and navigate reporting or court options.
Do not feel pressured to reply or accept the contact. Keep the items as evidence, photograph them before storing them safely, and note when and where they were received. Report repeated deliveries to building security or police if needed.
Tell children and caregivers how to stay safe, who is allowed to pick them up, and what to do if the person appears. Share school or daycare safety plans and make sure emergency contacts are up to date.
Organize your evidence, write a timeline, and bring copies of texts, photos, reports, and witness statements. Consider legal aid or an advocate to help you explain the pattern clearly and safely in court.
Avoid meeting the person alone, confronting them in anger, or posting reactive messages online. Do not delete evidence, and do not rely on a single device or account to store everything.
Keep updating passwords, safety contacts, and documentation habits even if the behavior slows down. Review your plan regularly, continue saving evidence, and stay connected with trusted people and support services.
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